Kissing (exclude French kissing):
Saliva does not transmit HIV and is therefore safe. However, beware of mouth ulcers which may cause blood contact during kissing.
Massage or frottage:
There is no risk of HIV being passed on through rubbing bodies against each other. However, note that massage oil can cause condom to break.
Masturbation
Masturbation is a very common sexual activity and completely safe for HIV and STIs. Mutual masturbation is when two people masturbate each other by touching or rubbing each other's genitals and is considered a safe activity for HIV—although using the other person's cum, pre-cum as lubricant does present a risk.
Fingering
Playing with someone's anus with your fingers is a low risk activity for passing HIV on. However, it is important to keep your fingernails trimmed and remove all rings so as not to cut the wall of the anus. Always wash your hands well after fingering to avoid gut infections.
Rimming
Rimming (mouth-to-anus contact) is quite safe if there is no wound or bleeding. However, hepatitis A and gut infections can easily pass on this way. Use dental dam or plastic wrap to reduce the risk.
Oral sex
Oral sex runs a small risk for HIV transmission, but the risk is higher when blood is involved. Note that other STIs, including syphilis, gonorrhoea, warts and herpes, can be transmitted through oral sex.
Fisting
Fisting means inserting your hand in someone's anus. It is possible to create serious cuts on the wall of the anus, and it is easy to pass HIV or HCV on. The scenario is even worse if the fistee has receptive anal sex, or if the fistee's anus is inserted with a finger or sex toy with cum or blood. In some serious cases, the receptive partner may even get gut perforation during fisting, and the fister could also get HIV if he has cuts or scratches on his hands. Be sure to remove your watch and all hand, wrist and arm jewellery before fisting. Latex gloves and silicone-based lubricants are important for protecting both of you.
Sex toys
HIV and other STIs can be transmitted from person-to-person through sharing of sex toys such as dildos, vibrators and butt-plugs. Putting a condom on every single toy and changing the condom before using it on a different person will prevent HIV from being passed on.
Piercing
Many people find body and genital piercings a turn-on. There are a few things about piercings to be aware of:
- Genital piercings such as a Prince Albert (a ring through the bottom of the head of the penis) can cause tears and abrasions in the anus during anal sex.
- Beware of condom tearing by the piercings on the penis.
- New piercings do occasionally get infected: if this happens to your genital piercing, avoid sex until it has healed as the infection can increase chances of passing on or getting HIV.
- Like tattooing, piercings involving penetrating the skin with devices like a needle could easily pass on HIV, HBV and HCV, or other STIs if the needle is not adequately sterilized among uses.